How To Flirt With A Girl Over Text

How To Flirt With A Girl Over Text

When flirting with a girl over text, it’s much more impersonal than if you’re right there in person. So there are certain techniques you have to use. Whatever your ultimate aim is in texting the girl – whether it be a date, a relationship or just to get her attention – you can’t just rush in headlong.

So here’s a few tips on how to flirt with a girl over text…

Flirting With A Girl Over Text

The main thing to consider is that you should never be boring and/or predictable. Keep it funny, fresh and exciting.

So never, ever start a conversation with things such as “Hi, how are you?” or “Hi, how’s your day been?”


And don’t keep repeating the same sorts of questions. Mix it up to keep her on her toes.

Be Personal

Another good tip is that you should try and keep the conversation as personal as possible due to the inherent impersonal nature of texting. So use her name as much as possible. And if you’ve got a cute nickname for her that you can use, that’s all the better.

And make sure you use terms like “we” and “us” as much as possible too. This builds a bond between you and she’ll automatically start to think of the two of you together.

Use Compliments

Good old compliments still work wonders too – the saying “Flattery will get you nowhere” is definitely wrong when it comes to girls! Every girl likes to be told how great she is or how good she looks. So tell her!

Of course, you have to be genuine when you’re complimenting her as girls are very adept at spotting fake compliments. But if you’re texting her, presumably you like her and so your compliment will be genuine anyway. Just make sure it comes across as though you really mean it.

Add A Little Intrigue

Another thing you can do is to keep the conversation going by being a little secretive and mysterious. So for example, if she asks you how your day went, don’t just tell her. And certainly don’t just reel off a boring list of things you did step by step. Instead, add a little intrigue. So you might say something like, “Actually, something amazing happened” or “Actually, you’ll never guess what happened to me today.” Or if nothing amazing did happen, try something like “I can’t believe how rude people can be.” Something that will peek her interest and make her ask more questions.

Tease Her (Gently!)

Teasing is also a great way to flirt with a girl over text. Of course, you have to do it in a nice, funny way. Don’t just criticize her and make nasty comments! So call her a cute and funny nickname, or tease her about something funny she did some time you were both somewhere together. This has the added benefit of making her thing about times you had fun together, and this makes her feel closer to you.

Get Suggestive

Of course, at some point you’re going to want to move things along a little. Again don’t rush into things, but just start being a little more suggestive in your texts. Make sure you monitor her responses so you can ease off if you sense her getting defensive.

One good way of getting more suggestive is to deliberately misconstrue something innocent that she says. Make it seem like she was being rude and pretend to be shocked.


Follow these tips about how to flirt with a girl over text and you’re sure to make good progress with the girl of your dreams!